Low blow
I've been digging in and talking to breeders in a few places, trying not to take offence when someone says something nasty and personal, and I do think it's worth it in the long run.
I have to admit to being human though.
Two nights ago I was reduced to tears by a post on the Our Dogs forum by a man calling himself Frank ("bad-animal" was his identity):
"For a woman to come from a top class show family and have her attitude is beyond our understanding.
Her family must be so proud.
Frank"
Not many words. So why does it make my eyes sting?
It all centres on whether Frank knew my parents and if he knows me.
I can think of two Franks from when I was a child in the dog show world. And if it is someone who knew them and me, then this is indeed a very cruel post.
My mum died only a couple of years ago, my dad a few years before that. Both died suddenly and traumatically - one suddenly in my front room within three weeks of a cancer diagnosis, the other with me at her side in hospital after three months of terrible suffering. It all still feels very raw - like it was yesterday.
I do feel very alone, I do miss them so much - their encouragement meant the world to me.
They were massive influences, the most supportive parents anyone could ever hope for. They believed strongly in truth and justice and it was my Dad that inspired me never to be afraid of bullies. To stand up and fight rather than run away.
He achieved so much in his life, came such a long way and was loved and admired by so many people. Mum was a very great character, too.
It meant a lot to have the approval and backing of my parents.
Having "Frank" mention my parents seems a really massive intrusion. An out of scale attack.
All I want to do is make things better for dogs, why attack me?
I have to admit to being human though.
Two nights ago I was reduced to tears by a post on the Our Dogs forum by a man calling himself Frank ("bad-animal" was his identity):
"For a woman to come from a top class show family and have her attitude is beyond our understanding.
Her family must be so proud.
Frank"
Not many words. So why does it make my eyes sting?
It all centres on whether Frank knew my parents and if he knows me.
I can think of two Franks from when I was a child in the dog show world. And if it is someone who knew them and me, then this is indeed a very cruel post.
My mum died only a couple of years ago, my dad a few years before that. Both died suddenly and traumatically - one suddenly in my front room within three weeks of a cancer diagnosis, the other with me at her side in hospital after three months of terrible suffering. It all still feels very raw - like it was yesterday.
I do feel very alone, I do miss them so much - their encouragement meant the world to me.
They were massive influences, the most supportive parents anyone could ever hope for. They believed strongly in truth and justice and it was my Dad that inspired me never to be afraid of bullies. To stand up and fight rather than run away.
He achieved so much in his life, came such a long way and was loved and admired by so many people. Mum was a very great character, too.
It meant a lot to have the approval and backing of my parents.
Having "Frank" mention my parents seems a really massive intrusion. An out of scale attack.
All I want to do is make things better for dogs, why attack me?
Comments
Frank's jibe is outrageous - and not worthy of any response at all. Rise above it - don't shed tears for such a thoroughly nasty man.
Claire
I have a great brother but no sisters. If I could choose some sisters I would choose you and Jemima Harrison. Whether you would like me or not as your sister!! Ha.
I frequently have to gulp these days as my heart leaps at what has been achieved in these last few months on behalf of pedigree dogs. We know we are not there yet - but Beverley it is no understatement to say you are re-writing the history of the purebred dog. Do not get disheartened. The cruel jibe says much more about the twit who made it than it ever can say about you.
Anyone who reads this blog or Dog's Today knows how much you care about animal welfare and how much you do for it, despite putting yourself in the firing line for comments like these.
Anonymous personal comments and attacks don't make me feel a high regard the integrity of the poster!
The beauty as I see it, of you coming from a showing background is that you have experience of showing, & can see both sides of the coin.
Beverley - never feel alone. You have more friends & admirers (myself included) than you will ever know. ((hugs))
I'm not completely alone! I am married, I have a lovely little 7 year old boy and two lovely step sons. But I am the very top of my family tree, which I guess makes me feel a bit exposed when someone has a go at me!
Feeling a lot more buoyant today. Helps to write it down and share it.
We're on one hell of a voyage together, thank you to everyone who shares their experiences.
We are starting to see real progress and must see this through.
It gives the writer a moment of
(perceived) power which is probably all they've got in their lives.